Yes, GH does have some great insights into this. I'm sure they were hard-won, as all of these things tend to be. That's what makes them all the more valuable, and I'm thankful that kind people like you guys are here to help out with them.
I agree with you about "detaching": I don't know how much I can "decide" to do it - most of the time, I just get so sick of being jerked around that I start backing off, reminding myself to stay loving.
So yeah, I think we incorporate this stuff when we're ready. Or when we've run out of other ways to look at the matter.
Saying all that, however, doesn't make me feel all that much better. I feel older, maybe wiser, but generally less well-put-together than before.
I suppose that the whole GAL thing is supposed to address that.
