You need to let him breath don't force him to do anything, you must remember he did the best he could, & as hurt as he is, he still love you! You are his source of love & pain at the same time, see the conflict!
The relationship is done you must create something new because the old one is broke its over, & cannot be fixed, it must be replaced. You are still with your husband, but what you had before is gone. Take this opportunity to make it want you want it to be. Find out why you did what you did, what are you lacking/missing? Do the opposite of everything you did before! (180's) Don't pressure him (give him his space, he needs to process the events in his mind @ his own speed); if he comes around he does, if he doesn't move on (GET A LIFE!) Remember how you were during your affair, (no consideration about him or his feelings) now its his turn Own up to all your actions (don't tell him it's because of him, people always want to blame other for their own actions, you could have stopped at anytime!) Become transparent, don't tell him everything your doing, but don't hide anything (if you are no longer doing anything wrong you have nothing to worry about) When he wants to express his feelings, listen and don't be judgmental (even though he might be to you) Don't take all the things he say to heart, he's really hurt right now (what pain is worse, the things he saying or what you did? The name calling he's doing the both of you will forget about some day, what you did neither of you will!)
That's the best I got for ya!, and this whole thing is going to take time a whole lot of it!
WAW 32 ME 38 D11, S9 & D2 Together 10/96 Married 4/2000 Bomb 4/2006 PA1 9/2006 PA2 11/2006 I now know I want out, With my Kids!!!
