Well, guys, haven't been here in a while....been the same old, same old. Until yesterday.
SO has finally snapped. It started a few days ago....once again, we're back to him throwing me out...OW wanting to marry him...We were arguing about everything and during the argument I mentioned I had heard something about her awhile ago...he insisted on me telling him what I heard - I refused. I told him I didn't want to say anything because I didn't know if it was true or just rumor.
From what I can gather, OW was trying to get him to stop bothering her unless he was serious about marrying her. He, in his obsessive way, continued emailing, calling, texting her - in his usual cycle. Starting out nice, then nasty, mean, & threatening.
Yesterday, the police called again, leaving a message telling him he's not have any contact with her. He says it was all because I wouldn't tell him what I heard.
When he spoke to the police officer, he told the officer he was going to kill himself...and supposedly the cop said "Do It". When he got off the phone he told me to take the kids and leave. That he was going to end everything after we left. I refused to leave, telling him I would not leave him in the state he was in, not caring if he hated me because of it. I asked him if there was someone he wanted me to call because I would not leave him by himself. He said no and that if I didn't leave he was. I refused to go, so he took 3 or 4 vicodin, putting the bottle in his pocket. He went downstairs and got his muscle car out of the garage. I knew this was serious and went downstairs. I mena, this car can't be out on snowy roads - the pills, everything. He took off....he did continue to call me. Saying he took more pills, crying, asking me to call the OW. I actually acquiesied -it meant more to me to have him alive...I called her cell but it wouldn't let me leave a message. I told him that...then he asked me to call her mother. I refused. I said it would only make matters worse.
Somewhere in there, the state troopers showed up. The cop told me it was because SO had sent a text to OW saying he was going to kill himself. He took all the info and an APB was put out for him in 4 counties. While the cop was here, SO called me and I told him they were looking for him...he said they'd never find him and he was in a cemetary; in the meantime, a mutual friend and I were in contact and she was out looking for him....SO spoke with the officer, crying, hhysterical, telling the cop not to look for him becasue then he would take the car and make them chase him.
Eventually, mutual friend found him...he had also called both his mother and father....kept calling me, yelling at me blaming me for all of this - somehow he was finally talked into coming back home. The police kept calling here to see if he had returned, once he returned I had to call them to tell them. Then, they came to the house and took him to a hospital.
Which is where he is now. The hospital called around 4, telling me he has agreed to admit himself. SO also kept calling me during the night - yelling at me, vile and mean - I finally ended up taking the phone off the hook, but awoke to numerous nasty text messages.
His mom came here this morning and has since left to go to the hospital.
This is a freaking nightmare but I'm relieved he's maybe going to get some help.
