Actually AH, there is a person some where on these forums named Alaska.
Do you live in Alaska?
How do you guys do it? isn't it dark there now, most of the time.
That alone would depress me.
You need some sun and orange juice
Anyhoo.
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Last night, W stated that too much has happened in the past and that she wanted to find someone to love again, to make her feel pretty. She said that she has been too busy with school to look around for someone else, but she stated that she might. I know she said it to hurt me, but it still hurt very, very much.
I think most of all have gotten, this speeck in one way or another.
And you are right, it hurts like heck!
18 months, yup you have been at this for a while.
What can I say? you are doing the right things.
That is all we can do
If you need to take meds, you take them, and don't feel guilty about it.
if your W does not understand, wll that is just to bad.
You have been thru enuff. She has to respect the fact that you have to keep your self feeling ok.
I think you do need to detach a little more.
You are really focused on what she is doing, and saying.
If this is an MLC case, she won't remember things that she tells you.
Let them roll of your back, yup, it's hard, but you will do it.
GaL, and 180's are for you!
Not so that she come back.
She is not your wife now, she is your friend, and she is not your best friend.
Support her yes, But don't fix things for her.
This is a long ride, and who knows when it will end.
Thank God you found this place, you vent here, you cry here, and when you see your Wife, out comes the smile that she loves most about Alaska!
I would read many stitches of this board, there are many people going thru the same stuff as you right now , sweets!
Go, and do something for you, take care of you, take a class in something, i don't know what you would do in Alaska, LOL,
I mean you can go moose watching or something right!
“Pray as though everything depended on God. Work as though everything depended on you.”
and orange juice 
