You are exactly right, that is exactly what I am doing. Spoke with my best girl friend this morning. She said listen to yourself, would you like it if H treated you that way. She told me to just stop, let it go, that everytime I am ready to say something to "shut the F up". She was watching Dr. Phil yesterday with a similar sitch. The H was mentally exhausted and would go out after work to avoid his W. He was drained and couldn't do it anymore. (Sound familiar?)
GF said regarding the $ H spends on lotto tickets; let it go. H is thinking "Geez I can't even buy a scratch off ticket without her all over my case" budget our $ to accomodate him. As far as H stopping for a beer, that is ok too. He needs to unwind after work; he gets up early, works all day and has to deal with me and he needs a safe place to unwind. She also told me to get rid of all my self help books, she too thinks I overthink everything and H is probably thinking she can't do anything without reading it in a book first. So back to fiction for this chick.
