MB have you read the Dance of Anger? It is a great book and can help you learn how to ask question without seeming b!tchy. Also have you seen this website?
You seem to be undermining your own progress? Read the book and the info on the website. The book will help with the anger and how to fight effectively and the website with detaching. If you are calling him at work you really do need to detach some. Back off and he will come closer.
Me 45 WAW 46 Married 23yrs D22 S18 D12 W moved out 1/12/07 Divorce Final 2/06/08