Yes, I often think that the 2,000 mile distance between H and I actually saved our marriage.
I'm interested to find out Deb's history and learn about her career issues, since that's what's on the top of my plate right now.
I also agree that being so far apart physically is really a blessing in disguise. It gives you time to work @ your own pace with less pressure.
My history - My husband took off on a sailboat adventure in May 06, without my knowledge. Said he is "sailing around the world", but I'm pretty sure he is sailing up and down the east coast and is now in the Carribean.
The worst thing he did was not pay a lot of his bills that are in his name only. I found out he's got a lot more money than I previously thought, when the tax statements came in this week. So, it's not that he can't pay his bills, it's just that he choses not to - go figure.
So, I continue to pay for the house and cabin and his truck in his absence (he gave me some money to do this). However, each month I see the money being depleted, which is alarming.
So when my employer offered a significant raise if I move to St. Louis, of course I jumped @ the chance (a promotion was also involved). So here I am in an apt. I now have enough money coming in to cover the cost of the house, but not the cabin. I have a renter there, but it doesn't cover the cost of the mortgages and repairs. The cabin and the house are on the market.
Yes, it's been and continues to be a nightmare. But, I know he is really sick. Just for him to admit to be bipolar and have drinking problem is a major step in the right direction.
The money right now is a big deal. I thought he was broke. But, he's not. I have already told him I am trying to pull this all together and get out from under these outragous mortgage payments.
I can breath a little easier now that I have more income. But, why should I use all my paycheck to pay the bills when he's floating on a boat for fun?? I haven't asked for more money yet, but I think the time is about here. The cabin would have foreclosed by now if it were up to him.
So, that's my history in a nutshell.
Crazy, huh??
Deb
Joy and Sorrow...when one sits alone with you at your board, remember the other is asleep upon your bed. ~Kahlil Gibran
Me: 46 H: 45 Married: 5.0+ years Bomb: May 17, 2006 0 living children, 2 babies in heaven 1 dog, 2 cats
