Hi RB, I think OT's advice was really good. I hear that you may have a trust issue with your FIL right now, like maybe blood is thicker, and you are not sure if you will matter if they are forced to choose between W and you in terms of wanting different things. So here's a few thoughts. Maybe FIL saw something that you couldn't see. FIL also may know he needs to talk to you about it, because he changed his mind - he probably feels caught in the middle and it's a difficult spot. Imagine if you said to FIL "I was initially upset that this happened without being informed, I was caught off guard and was not prepared. However, I can see that it is all for the best, it will give W & I the space we need to move slowly and heal our R. I am grateful to you always for your continuing support of our M. I know you know how much I love W, and you."
Just a thought, RB. That you could create it as a blessing and be grateful. Slow and steady wins the race. It is just not what you expected. And the reaction is something out of your past. When did someone break their word with you, how old were you, how did it feel? In general, how do you react when things happen without planning or your input? Does any of this perhaps have to do with wanting to be more in control of what's happening?
Trust, RB.... all is well. You are loved, and being looked after.
Hugs to you.
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