Don't worry about sounding negative on here. It's the right place for it and it stops you venting it at H.
I know what you mean about the mobile. I hate it now if H is texting away and I don't know who it is to and it has freaked me out a couple of times. I keep repeating to myself now something that H said. Where is he? Here with me. Why would he be here with me if there was someone else. He wouldn't. It works for me when I get those kind of feelings.
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I am the sort of person who needs constant reasurance and approval from others and feel guilty so easily about anything and everything - basically i was really hard work, so i don't blame him for leaving. I then got post natal depression after first son was born and i think after helping me through that H had just about had enough!
we are so alike it is scary. That is me to a tee!! I'm pretty sure my H left mostly due to my post natal depression and having to deal with it too. One thing I have learnt from all this and from all the R help books I've read is that the less I actually ask for him to show my affection or reassurance the more he seems to do it. It really surprises me because I was like you say - always needing reassurance and worrying about things.
About the hugs and text kisses stopping. I know this is scary and hope it will be reassuring to know that when my H moved from the spare room to our room he stopped hugging for about a week. It was as though he could only handle one thing at once. Then they started up again and soon after he started kissing me on the lips. Maybe your H is just going through a bit of a readjustment thing in his head and will start hugging you again when he's sorted it.
