Hi! I'm glad the weekend well somewhat well for you. And yes baby steps, we should always look out for baby steps. Almost everyone does what you have that you consider backslides. It's within all of us to find out what is wrong particularly in a relationship that you've invested time and effort into but confronting the other.I think sometimes it's good for that to happen so perhaps in a way it's sort of a statement of where we stand in the M, and we stand back try to follow the DB techniques. Makes sense? Ugghhh maybe not. But don't feel bad, your concerns about getting too comfy with the current sitch are legitimate but at the same time positives.
What I'm referring to is that he still sleeps there and not totally moved out. He's still contributing to the mortgage, another good sign. Just try not to make yourself too available. Create a sort of mystery about you and your routine. Did you check out the meetup.com link? Just try it see if you'll find a group that shares your interest. And try not feel like a doormat and if it make you feel any better you are the wife and she is the OW, nothing concrete about whatever they're having right now are there? But again I undertand where you're coming from. Here's an idea, if you have a girlfriend or close coworker (same sex of course), ask them if they want to go out and have drinks or something on the nights that he sleeps over. see how he reacts. Once again don't make yourself too avaiable and creative a mystery about yourself when you go out during the times that he least expect it.
Here's the link after I did a search of all meetups in a 50 mile radius around Ann Arbor MI. The results should show if you click on the link.
