Sorry I didn't get around to posting last night....but I'm glad that Piglet chimmed in. I agree with what she says - I think the point I was trying to make is that you do need to stand behind her 100% - that I totally agree with. I didn't give my parents an ultimatum - I just told that that I support my W 100% and I will protect her and my children from harm in all fashion and that they need to know this - that I won't back down or get in the middle. So Piglet offers some good advice.
It's frustrating as all get out - I understand that - and as I said this will take a lot of time I suspect. Particularly since your W seems to be vacillating all over the place. It is really best to drop your expectations to nil and start GAL'g (if you haven't already). In any interaction, I'd just A/V your arse off - listen, listen, listen and affirm. Validate. She seems to need to work past the hurt, anger and pain. In the meantime, you need to be patient.
I so wish I had more - maybe others will chime in as well. I'll tell you it took a solid 8 months from her telling me she is willing to try to her expressing her love unconditionally....that maybe gives you a sense as to how long the journey might be (and I'm guessing mine was probably one of the shorter ones).
Keep posting....
Sven
Never sacrifice the great for the good. Sometimes the beauty of grace is that it makes life not fair.
