I want to trust him again

[Jen_Jam]

Oh Unloved....I wuold like you to take your left hand and put it on your right shoulder. Now take your right hand and put it on your left shoulder. Now squeeze hard. That's a hug from me to you ((((unloved)))

First - the mobile phone. You know you're being irrational so read up in DR on Thought Stopping. Work on that. The mobile/Ow isnt' important here. YOU are.

H says he didn't really love you, you pushed him into marriage tec etc. File those things he says into the "yeah right" folder. WAS's say an awful lot of things that just plain aren't true. Don't argue it with him, just ignore it. A look about on these boards will show you a lot of the things WAS's say are spookily the same...cue Twighlight Zone music...You are about to enter another dimension, a dimension not only of sight and sound but of mind. A journey into a mind boggling land of rewriting the past. Next stop, the WAS Zone!

OK - your need for love, and it being draining on him. I recommend you read Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. I suffered low self esteem and my H could never provide enough love...that book helped me understand my neediness was turning him off.

Your need for approval - I also recommend "Your Erronerous Zones" by Wayne Dyer, that helped me a lot too.

And you're right this whole situation is a setback in your M, nothing more. One thing I was told was that in the grand scheme of things this was a low point. It turned out to be right, it was a low point in an otherwise happy M. IMHO I think you have a good chance here, but work on yourself right now, DB'ing is not really about saving M's more about creating happy people in M's.

Best of luck and keep posting!!