Ok, before I respond to your posts I will tell you what train wreck just happened.
H calls from work, we chit chat about the weather yada yada then...I apologize for my bad timing regarding our talk last night. He says, ya not real good talking to me when I have to get up in an hour. I say, there really never is a good time to talk to you. I word for word say that I am in the dark about where he is and who he is with. He goes nuts, starts yelling at me. Says I thought we worked all this out and now you bring this shit up again. I can't take it anymore and cannot live like this. You try to control my every minute. Blah, blah.
I validate him but say that I feel like you do not respect me when you lie. Why can't you just let me know that you are not coming straight home, that you are going out. He says cause he doesn't want the third degree. Says for 13 years he never did anything and now he wants to go out and I give him $hit. Why don't we just file bankruptcy and end this M. I tried to calm him down and explain that one of my problems is, he supposedly goes out with people from work but I have never once met any of them and it makes me feel insignificant.
I said that I want to stay married and work things out, I want us to be honest with eachother. Whatever, he had to go the roads are slippery and he cannot drive with one hand any longer. Didn't really resolve anything and actually things are now worse.
Will look into the self-help book you recommended as I definitely am in need of something.
