how to keep calm and patient??

[Jen_Jam]

Very Crazy is right, it will take time.
I remember when H recomitted and told mee he loved me etc, I still had my shoulders up (you nkow that tight, tense feeling) and thought i would get it wrong again. I still worry. It just takes time, in fact each time we disagree and come through it get a little more sure.
I was thinking about this today...this time last year H was leading up to a second bomb (which I got end of March). I know in the back of my mind I am still thinking of that and I need to get beyond March before I will feel that little bit more secure. Then next milestone is Sept 5th - the first bomb (when H actaully moved out). Once I have passed these I think it will help. They say when you have a habit to break it takes a year to go through all the differing seasons/times of year etc before you can truly consider the habit broken. In that case I am going to be pretty much on my guard for the rest of this year.