Just checking in, Nicola. It is very frustrating to give your all and to feel like the other person just sucks it all in and doesn't give anything back. FWIW, I often didn't offer to help clean the kitchen after my H made dinner. He never said anything, so I figured he didn't care or didn't need me in there. I don't know if he did or not...because neither of us was good at saying what we really wanted.
I have no real advice. Just continue to treat him with loving kindness and take care of yourself. Be well.
