It will take time, time we all have to have if we are to be successful. When he is at home and things are going well, you just never know when they go away for a time, what mood they will be in when they come back or what has happened while they were gone, so your emotions are all mixed up. The focus is so much on them, and making sure they never get upset with us. That's why we have to detach somewhat, so we can take most the focus off them and put it on us, just for the sake of staying sane. I fight with this daily, and am trying to get the emotional strangth together to do some more "outside the house" changes. I live in the burbs, but everything I could possibly want to do is nearby, but it's hard to want to do anything that takes the focus off our M, but I am beginning to realize I have to, really. Don't you still meet with the mommy's group? Perhaps you could invite some of them over for tea, or go to the park, just getting out in the fresh air could be helpful, and put some roses in your cheeks. You are doing well, really.