I am not saying that you haven't successfully resolved your situation. I'm just saying that I haven't found "improving my attitude" to be a way to successfully resolve my situation.
Ha! My situation is hardly resolved. But I feel less resentment and more at peace about what the M IS providing than what it is lacking. I guess going through a seperation can do that for you. That's just my experience though.
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I also understand what you're saying about this BB being a possible contributing factor to my bad attitude through negative reinforcement. However, I find that it has worked both ways for me. I've been on and off this BB since I've joined it and sometimes I come back when things have gotten better and sometimes I come back because they have gotten worse while I was gone. Overall, I think I have experienced personal growth vis a vis the BB because I no longer have bad reactions in response to the posts of LD spouses like I used to.
I see that as growth too. Maybe that is why I am even on this board right now. I hate to fail and to avoid my mistakes. Can I get something from all of you in a healthy way without it bringing me down into a state of depression? I don't know. Nothing is really "fixed" in my M other than my attitude but that may be the key for me. Time will tell. Interesting posts this morning by the way. All I could picture when you were talking about BF being the hero in a romance novel was an alternating image of him being all grumpy reading that, and him on a white horse attmpting to be Fabio. Lol. At least this board provdes some comical relief. But seriously, thank for the "Hi" from BF, Lil, and Lou. I'm going to respond to you, Heather, on your own thread.
