He's looking for a feminine smile of encouragement that he's doing his 'man' thing in a way that might be pleasing to you. You could say "Chimps are fun, but what a lovely, cute donkey you are... and donkeys are so much fun, in their own, loving cute way." Or something bit of flirty light humor type talk that gives him the tiny boost he'd like to have from you (which, btw, costs you nothing, but does worlds of good for him).
Well, I did smile and say that I appreciated his help. I was just a bit confused because his statement was offered in a manner such that he was making what I would have just regarded as manly behavior into placating behavior. It's like he was saying "See how I am placating you.".
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The whole scene where you started to laugh/cry after your son's comment about the laundry, and him saying, 'fine, I'll go to work on Monday,' ... Mo... believe it or not, you inspired him. He picked up his 'man reins' again. He may not have made the move in a stellar fashion, could have done it in a more sauve, sophisticated 'all male' kind of way... but you need to see, and be patient with, the fact that he IS climbing down out of his tower and spending more time out in the sunshine with you. The more comfortable HE gets with it, the less clumsy he'll become with picking back up on his place as the man in the family.
Actually this was a positive interaction and I know it. I'm sorry if I didn't convey that in my post. I am so unused to getting any sort of positive reaction from my H when I react by crying that I was sort of amazed that I did. Almost certainly it had to do with the fact that I spent two weeks!! being the brave little soldier/nurse and he knew that it wouldn't be fair to ask much more of me.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
