And I don't think it's too much of a stretch to consider at least some of her expressed ideas/beliefs/observations as falling within the "radical" camp of feminists.
I hear ya. My ex is probably not as hard core as your W, philosophically, but in practical implementation she's pretty similar. Every negative encounter with a man is because of sexual discrimination or subjugation, every negative encounter with an institution is due to institutionalized sexism. Any company that doesn't support everything she thinks I should do for the kids is not family friendly and I shouldn't be working for them.
I was watching Everybody Loves Raymond the other day. Debra and Ray were having an argument in the bathroom and she ended up taking the shower nozzle off the hook and squirting him with it. Ray started to wrestle it away from her and I did that sphincter clenching thing, knowing she was either going to call the cops or never EVER let him forget how he used his physical strength against her.
I was on a date and made a move which was received with a good deal of ambivalence. I told the woman I talked about in my earlier post (we talk about these things) that I felt pretty bad about it but was relieved that this date had asked me out to dinner later in the week, so it must not have been too bad for her. My friend replied, "Did you really think a little t!t grope was going to send her to therapy or have her dialing 911?" Uh, yeah, pretty much...yeah...I mean, I hadn't made sure it was okay ahead of time or anything. It's a hard mindset to break out of; nobody wants to be an abuser of the weak.
It's just a matter of getting to the point where I can give myself permission to be me.
I suspect you're a little concerned that perhaps she's too damaged or obstinate to handle who you really are. Maybe you can chase becoming the man she really wants you to be just a little longer.
(It's a joke, man, just a *joke*!!)
Can't wait to tell my W what a great rack she has.
All women like the girls to get noticed. Or so I've been told by reliable sources.
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