All you can do right now is look after yourself. You can't do anything for or to your wife - she's on her own journey. Let her get on with it and in the mean time look after yourself.
Read DB again. Exercise - you can't be heart broken or think about your fcuked up marriage when your heart is beating at 160bpm and your sweating a litre of fluid. Exercise also releases endorphines, that help with the depression you are feeling. Exercise is the best self help tool there is. Do it my friend.
Spend some time with your friends. Read a novel. Go to the movies - just get this stuff out of your head.
Look after yourself and let your wife go and do what she's got to do. When she is demanding your attention - listen and validate but don't buy into it.
You can't control her, you can't control the situation - you can only control yourself. Make yourself the best, strongest you you can be to get through this time and to come out the otherside.
Thinking of you.
V
Never make someone a priority, who makes you an option.
