You need to do what you want and need, not what you think he wants or needs. As you are aware, changing your behavior has VERY little effect on what he does.
You need to stop thinking in terms of him, because it is likely he is not thinking of you.
Acting or reacting a certain way in hopes of getting a reaction or behavior from the other person is rarely a good choice.
Because you are changing the person you really are and is this likely to attract the person you want?
A confident, honest, centered person is much more attractive than a person who always tries to appease and please and let go of their true self.
