Some things that I have learned to be helpful. 1) give them space 2) don't talk to mutual friends about the situation 3) I hated validated H's feelings. The statement that has been most effective for me has been "I'm sorry you feel that way". My H is dumbstruck everytime I say this. 4) Don't be so available for her. She has to feel what it would be like without you 5)do the unexpected, hair style, hobbie, etc... 5) be so very very happy 6) Don't talk relationship issues for now 6) take good care of yourself, emotionally and physically. Tell me more how she met the OM?
Me: 45 H: 43 Married: 19 years Dated 05 years Bomb: 11/06 OW - "I love her, but still want you as my friend"
