My husband has had a tendency throughout our marriage to "run away" as well. Although he has only moved out a few times over the last 20 years, he used to move downstairs into the extra room quite a lot. Over the years he'd complain about something I did or didn't do so I'd change, but soon it seemed like he'd find another thing to complain about and it seemed like nothing I did would ever make him happy. I don't know if this is similar to your sitch, but it was a very difficult pattern to live with. Also, for a long time I thought I was the person who could "fix anything" and it seemed like this was the one thing I couldn't fix. I just couldn't be perfect enough. Does any of this sound familiar to you?
I don't think there's anything wrong with you trying to keep your family together and trying to be patient with your husband.
What kind of changes does your husband want to see?
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
