Burgbud, I think that was a phenomenal post. Except the parts about your sphincter clenching? Not sure what that was about, lol. Anyway, your points made a lot of sense to me. Once you accept who you are and act accordingly without apology, then I can see where that could place the other partner in their crucible. I suppose the other partner could just keep emotionally detaching to the point where it is actually you who is placed in the crucible. Do you see where that could happen? But assuming that both partners do want to meet the other's needs, at least to some degree, then they may feel the heat caused by their partner acting congruent with who they are. Whatever the outcome, I think it's definitely a necessary step in this process.
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
