You're right about BOTH of us having a responsibility to communicate. But she says she tried all the time. Maybe she did and I was too selfish to hear it, but I'll be dammned if I can say that she did it in a way that was going to get through to me. Most of the time she threatened me, or attacked me pretty cruelly. She 'could find someone better' or I was "going to be a loser" and stuff like that.
So how do you validate "but with a firm but gentle hand evenly taking the blame"?
