I just found out the D papers are not finalized. I do have it in my control to put the divorce on hold for 6 months. I am so confused. This may belong in the midlife section b/c that is exactly what he is going thruogh. I have been doing whatever he wants, including the D, so he feels in control, which is what I'm told mid-lifers need. I'm now freaking out that the D will be final and it will greatly reduce the chances of reconciliation. On the other hand, he will likely be furious if I do this w/o consulting him.
