Need advice

[want2believe]

Jack,

I know WAH isn't the best of fathers, but he does love his kids. In talks with WAH's S, we both think how he interacts with the Boy's
might be tied to the fact that their F was a drunk, and never around much when they were growing up. WAH parents I guess never went to any of H's activities as a kid either. You'd actually think he'd be the opposite of what his father did, but I guess sometimes we turn out more like our parents than we want.

Believe me it hard for me also, which is one reason I can't keep staying quite about some things I use to in the past.

On the brighter side - WAH did end up staying 3 nights in a row at the house with us. We worked together a lot at the business this weekend. I know some of the reason WAH is staying is because it's soo cold out, and he has a diesel trunk which has been giving him problems with starting lately. But he also wouldn't be staying if part of him didn't want to stay.
Boys both had games on Sat morning, and I got up and got them ready. WAH continued to sleep. In the past I probably would have just let H sleep, and said good-bye. I thought about it, but decided that wasn't my decision to make for him. So I asked H if he was planning on going to their games. He said of course he wanted to go. Wanted to know what time it was, and I could see he felt constricted by the time. We worked something out though.
WAH even suggested we all go out to eat as a family on Saturday night. It was an enjoyable outing, although I could tell H mind was going back and forth a few times. I ignored it and consentrated on having fun. I still have no clue what will happen end of March, but I'm looking at this past weekend as a good trial. A few times I felt like H maybe felt like he needed space, so I left him alone for awhile. H didn't take off though, and usually after 1/2 hour or so, appeared fine again.
This morning, kids ended up getting a snow day, as it was too cold for the buses to start (-16 F, with -28 wind chill). WAH truck wouldn't start, so we ended up car pooling. WAH was debating about getting new batteries for his truck to see if it would help or not. He was planning on replacing them this year sometime, just not yet. It almost felt like a discussion he was having with himself on if he wanted to fix it, so he could go back to his place agin, or if he'd wait to replace them so he could have a reason to stay at the house longer. It could just be my imagination though. I didn't say anything, it's his decision on what he does.