Im, there is not mgic answer sweet heart!

You have to make a choice.

You have to make a choice, to be the strong one here.

Is it hard? The hardest thing ever.

The good think about your W, is that she still looks at you for comfort. Many people here don't even Talk to their spouses.

So that is your opportunity for your 180, or for your DB skills to work.

You see her down, you are the opposite.


You will tell her

I'm sorry you feel that way.

Don't tell her, you are depressed, b/c you are making the wrong decision, you do want me , you don't know it.

Bleh, don't tell her that .

You are her friend, now, Friends is what creates the buidling blocks to more than friends later , later, on.

You are not her best friend.

and I know that is hard.

But these spouses need some tough love sometimes, in a gentle way.

Make home comfortable for her, and stay out of her way.

She has to go thru this process.

This grieving they have to do

I wish i can tell you what EXACTLY to do so you don't hurt anymore buddy!

But if you pray, i would take your prayers up a notch.

If you don't eat veggies, you should start now, b/c this is one hell of a ride, many ups and downs, and you need your strength.

You need to be the strong one.

So cry if you need to,, not in front of your W, your tears just make her feel guilty, the guiltier she feels, the more she will move away from you.

I'm sorry you are going thru this, just know we know exactly how you feel.

The best thing for you is take care of yourself, mentally, spiritually, emotinally, and physically.

“Pray as though everything depended on God. Work as though everything depended on you.”