yes, fellow furniture, he nailed it didn't he? I too am having a pissy day. Not surprising given that spouse "went out" last night. And like you whatsis, I have been at this a long time. I have privately thought I can't do it much longer but didn't share that with spouse yet. In my sitch I see many opportunities to give truthful answers but shy away from them. Example: after dinner spouse goes to computer, shuts door, and emails lover. I'm 20ft away in the kitchen. Does closing the door make her think I don't know what she's doing? I am, of course, deeply hurt by this. She comes out, looks at my face and says: "what's wrong?" I answer "nothing that I'm willing to talk about right now". True but weenie answer. For me it all seems so obvious that when she asks some INANE question like "what's wrong" it seems useless to be truthful or upfront.
I MUST start being more "off the cuff" and say what I really mean but it is so Fing hard for me. Part of it is I want to scream "you're f((*&^ing nuts, what do you MEAN "what's wrong?"??!?!?!?!? I know that the few times I have "nailed" her on her behavior she has improved or at least changed it.
God I'm tired of this. Sorry to hijack Whaty!http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/images/icons/default/mad.gif
I have a shovel and I'm not afraid to use it. Stubby
