Muddle, I do believe you are right here! The thought occured to me yesterday but, honestly, I thought if I opened that can of worms in the mood I was in, it could go bad fast. It was not the day. I think I was really angry at what appears to be her lack of any sense of reality here! She's planning family vacations after I just got through telling her I'm not willing to go much longer like this. To others her reaction may be perfectly reasonable, to just continue on "as if" but it pushed a button in me. As far as courtesy etc, I believe it is reasonable to tell her at the time that I would prefer her to address me different manner. If she wants to continue treating me like furniture at other times, that's up to her but in actual conversations she needs to keep a leash on herself. I'm ready to go for it, Muddle. I'm always so conscious of keeping a tolerable atmosphere in the house that I probably do walk away from alot that should be addressed. The key is to separate my emotional anger towards her for other things right now from the actual incident I am addressing. Thanks for dropping be Muddle.
