Merder's doing the third person thing because it is utterly unlike anything he would normally write. He is concerned about who might be reading this.
In real life, he is not quite this annoying.
The pain is very intense, by the way. Making reference to some sort of distanced alter ego doesn't help much.
How to show the W that I'm standing up for her? We are separated and she will have nothing to do with my Ps. There are no "productive" talks about this issue. Anything said just leads to a new memory of how much she loathes them.
