More or less verbatum what my H said. His line was "I don't want to force my feelings, there is nothing I can do". I just smiled, nodded, and thought "yeah right - just you wait and see" Now he's realising that love and happiness are decisions we make, not feelings that are just "there". Granted sometimes you feel happiness with no effort, but the rest of the time you choose it. My advice on this would be to ignore what H said about effot and carry on with the DB. WAS's don't have the strength that usLBS's have. I wouldn't give him the book. He'd probably never pick it up, and if you did give it to him the message would be "I am right and you are wrong", and it would come over as you trying to force his feelings. The only way to make someone change is by changing yourself. Yes you can talk people into things but it won't last. The longer route is to change his ideas by changing your behaviour, and make him think it was all HIS idea to change in the first place. Result? All round winner. But it takes a LOOOOOONG time.
Bomb (ILYBINILWY, don't want to be married)Sept05 Seperated Sept/Oct 05 Oct 06 - H recomitted July 11 - I am now a WAW.
