Some couples do just fall in with each other but at some point they commit, heart and soul. It appears your H never did... did you?
Well, my H and I were married in a very liberal Unitarian ceremony. Basically, I promised to do my best to promote his personal growth. I intend to honor that commitment even if it means that I have to leave him. My way is not clear to me.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
