Totally agree that you need to get the emotion out as long as it is not destructive - something that is not always easy to do.

H and I spent a fair amount of this weekend talking off and on about our R and it was exhausting to say the least. I felt like my whole weekend was wasted with no time to relax. But, then on the other hand, I had to think about how nice it was to get some of those ideas out verbally so H knows where I am coming from. All these years he has thought I don't need him, and I am a lot to blame in that department (so he told me today) in that I portray myself to be so strong and don't express my emotions, including the ones that make him feel better (i.e. thanks for being there for me and supporting me through .....) - it's never a one way street.

We have a lot to work on but anything that is worth it takes time.

Heywyre

M - 57
H - 65
1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02
2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06
together 21 years
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Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)