This weekend sucked. We tried to sit down and pay the bills, an easy thing, right? Nope. She is swearing at me and calling me names. She is convinced I am hiding money from her and says that I am out to screw her at every turn. Basically, any time I express a preference for something in the negotiations that isn't exactly how she wants it, I'm an a-hole. I finally had to walk away, half the bills not paid. I went to get a shower and she comes in the bathroom crying her eyes out, wailing. I want to comfort her but she has removed me from that role, so I just finish my shower and leave the bathroom.
After we both calm down, we finish the bills and she says we will not be sitting down together to pay them any more. I'm not sure what that means, because there will be at least one more cycle of this before I move. She says she is one inch away from abandoning the collaborative D and filing a traditional D. Yeah, newsflash, this is hell on eveyone, welcome to the club. As a gesture to calm her down I agree to pay a deposit on our kids tuition at the private school out of one of my accounts. Then, tonight when i got home after the Superbowl, there is a note from her saying I am now responsibile for all my own bills, implying we are not paying as a team anymore. Great, I drain my account and now we're on our own. Just what I get for being a nice guy. Now I need to decide if it is worth fighting about that. This sucks.
built4speed My Saga "How others deal with the gifts you've given is not your decision, but theirs." - Richard Bach
