Like I said if you want to go and see a movie and take the kids I am more than willing. Only thing is that I have to find someone to watch Natie.
Now about you. Again you are too focused on him.
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I feel good because I lost weight and am looking better than ever.
You lost all of that weight because of the stress. I lost 30 pounds when all of this crap started with me and you of all people no I do not have 30 lbs to loose. You have lost a lot of weight and you do look great. Keep that attitude for yourself not for him. That is a very positive thing.
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I would love to go out to a movie or do something and don't have too many people to call on.
You can always call me. I am willing to go and see a movie with you. Obviously as friends but If you ever just want to hang out let me know.
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I will just have to remember not answer should he call again tomorrow.
This is a comment about his reaction to you not answering the phone....Quit. Focus on you.
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
I didn't mean it as a comment towards him. I just don't want to fall back into that same rut of jumping when he says jump...
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
Well don't. I quit and it really pisses Karla off. She actually hates the fact that I am pissed off at her. Did you read about the TM's she sent me? She is really going to be pissed when I get my atty and send her the letter stating that I want full custody.
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
I only saw the one that said something about your comments on myspace. You know what, if that is the only thing that she has to complain about, then you are doing something right.
I would absolutely go for full custody. She has already proven that she is an unfit mother right now. I know that it probably is hard for other people to talk about her but to be honest, anyone that puts a SO above her own children...is mental!!!!
I know that if H and I go the D route, he will have limited visitation. He has already proven to me that his priorities do not lie with me and the kids. I would rather them know that he is only going to be there every couple of days than not to know when he will ever be back around. That is me thinking about my kids first and not me. It kills me to have to do that but he will not get shared custody. I don't trust either one of them and their decisions. I am the only constant in my kids lives. My mom and I are the only ones that they know they can count on.
H couldn't even stay long enough yesterday to watch A open her gifts! Selfishness is not appealing to me right now.
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
I made a boo boo. H tried calling my cell phone and I didn't answer so I knew that he was going to call the house. So I turned on the phone so that it would go straight to vm because we just got the little one to sleep. But about the time that I went to turn it on, he called.......daggon it. He was pretty peed off. He was asking me about credit cards and the credit agencies. Asked me if I had the numbers and I told him no. I was not going to look them up. He needs to do things on his own. I told him that I didn't steal it so there was no need to be angry at me. I told him to call me when he wasn't so angry. He said "FINE. I'LL TALK TO YOU LATER!"
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
He asked me if he had our sears card or if I had it. I told him that I had it. He also told me that his insurance cards were gone. I told him that I would take care of getting him new cards. But that was all. He asked about his birth certificate and if he had a copy and I just said "I don't know." Oh wow...I actually get to say that now. I am not about to lift a finger for him right now. Also, I didn't say anything about already knowing about it.
He asked me if I was home earlier and I said yes, for a while. I didn't let him bother me. I am just laughing right now. "WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND!"
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
You did good to a point. The point where you did bad is that you are still trying to get a rise out of him...You need to be doing this for you and for your sanity. Not to try and piss him off. He will be able to tell. They all do. Just let go for you. Let go for your own sanity. Ley go and let him live his life and deal with the repercussions of his desc. You just nee to live your life for you and only you. Learn from the mistakes that you have made in this R and correct them before you get into another R either with your H or with someone else...
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
Well the super bowl is over so I am going to bed. You know my number if you need anything. By the way it is supposed to be -15 to -25 degrees tomorrow with the wind chill....
By the way I get my kids tomorrow. I am so frickin excited. I miss my little rug rats.
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
Ben, don't get me wrong. I am not trying to get a rise out of him. Honestly, I would love to help him out but am choosing not to. I would love to be there for him and help but I do want him to see that he is going to have to do these things on his own. Yes, I am sure I will find that I am not totally doing this just for me. I AM trying to get him to see what I have to offer him and that he needs to come home. But I am also trying to cut things off for myself.
My former self would have gotten upset right along with him and would have said, "Tell me what you have in your wallet so that we call everyone." But I didn't. I did call him back to ask if he filed a police report.
I am doing this for myself but I am hanging in here in the background. Remember, the door is still cracked.....
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
