He doesn't like those convos because he knows that what people are telling him are the truth. I have tried too many times to say things to him but he just wouldn't listen...So I am going to let those things continue to happen to him. I will sit back and watch and maybe he will decide that I really was there for him. Don't get me wrong. I AM NOT GIVING UP! I just want him to see that I am not sitting around waiting for him to call me anymore. I want him to think that I am moving on with my life. Maybe then will he really start to think that he is losing his family.
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
Again you need to start doing things for yourself. Everything you are posting right now is trying to get a reaction from your H. Quit. Do this for you and your own sanity. Not to try and get him back. You have not given your sitch to God yet. You really need to. Just my two cents. But you really need to let go and let him hit rock bottom on his own. Let him realize what it is with out you as YOU move on with your life for you and the kids. They are what matter right now. I see Q' face when I drop my kids off and it kills me by what your H is doing. He does not see it when he is not around nor will he believe you if you tell him so do not even try. He will have to deal with his own demons on his own terms.
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
Ok, what are your thoughts on this???? His 30th is next week, what should I do? I asked him a few days ago if he will let me take him out and he said "We'll see."
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
By the way I think you need to apply the LRT to your sitch. Just my Personal opinion. I was with him when he was trying to call you and it was making him mad because someone stole his wallet at basketball today...However, it was not your problem so you did the right thing by not answering.....Again just my 2 cents.
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
So he was getting mad at me for not answering. I bet he drove by the house on his way back to her place. Makes me laugh when I think about it.
I will have to go back and read the LRT.
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
He did not drive by on the way here but he did call me to get the number so he could cancel his CC's. Read about it. I think it is time for you to start applying it for your own sanity. You really need to detatch and let him know what it is going to be like with out you and the family. But you need to do this for you not to try and get him back....That is God's job.
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
I don't know why he bothered to cancel the cards. He has already maxed all of them out. He probably wanted me to take care of calling the numbers. LOL....sorry, I just find this a little humorous!
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
Actually he did. His exact words were I need to call W and have her cancel my CC. With the exception he used your name. Either way you need to let go and focus on you and your kids. Truely turn it over to God.
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
He realizes everything that I have done for him. I guess I am not such a controlling person. I just tried to watch out for us and our finances.
I am focussing on me right now. I feel good because I lost weight and am looking better than ever. It is just depressing because I would love to go out to a movie or do something and don't have too many people to call on. I think I am going to have mom watch the kids one night this weekend and go see Stomp The Yard. Looks like a good movie.
I will just have to remember not answer should he call again tomorrow.
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
