"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
good...so let's just say that there is a 2 way tie.
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
Let's just say that I am not in the best of moods. Yesterday was our D 4th Birthday. Found out that H & OW were at a "friend's" house and that H walked over to our house from there. OW was still at "friend's" house. I am angry because "friend" know what I am going through but seems to be encouraging this A by allowing H to bring over the OW. It absolutely erks me at this point. This was not found out through snooping...this was free info from H. And H only came over for 1 1/2 hours.....sound like quality time to me!??!?
But anyways, I went to church this morning and was at the point of saying "I GIVE!" I was about to call H today and tell him that I was going to contact an attorney because I have had enough of being 2nd place and the kids being denied quality time with him. But when I was at church, I was told not to give up. So I guess I am not giving up. But I think today that I am not going to answer the phone if H calls. I am tired of being walked all over.
So that is it for now.
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
Just to let everyone know...H called my cell 6 times and called the home phone 4 times. I DIDN'T ANSWER ANY OF THE CALLS! It feels good to be in control even if it is only for a day and even if it means that I have made him extremely angry.
Last edited by not_giving_up; 02/04/0711:15 PM.
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
Just so you know I have always been in the middle of this. I do not like it but you are both my friends. I can not stop him from doing what he is doing. I also did not know that they were even going to stay here that long. The other night I was a wreck and I needed help from people to keep me out of trouble. J was the first person I called.
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
Yes, but you know what. You allowing her to come over shows him that it is ok to do what he is doing. Doesn't really send him the message that he is being an idiot. It also doesn't help that people are tiptoeing around him. I am done doing this. To prove that, I did not answer any of his calls today. Have not talked to him and don't care to until he is ready to do some thinking and some sensible talking.
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
It is about time that you stand up...That is what I have been trying to tell you for so long. I have nothing to do with this. I can not control what he does and he is one of the only true friends I have left. That is what sucks about this whole thing. Not only do I have to deal with my own drama, I have to deal with yours and your H. I am staying out of it and I am here for both of you but I am not getting involved. You need to stand your ground and detatch. Heck even go Dark until you can truely detatch. You are still focusing on him way too much. You did not answer the phone to prove a point to him. What are you doing for you?
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
Let's just get this out in the open. I am not angry with you. Not in any way. I am just so fed up with his excuses and lack of....well....balls! He has no right bringing her around anyone. I spoke with his sister today and she has no interest in talking with him ever again. So I hope he is ok with not having any family whatsoever because that is what he now has. He has given up everything for this piece of crap!
Sorry...I am sure he will try to show up tomorrow while I am at work and there is nothing I can do about that. I do not want my mom to get in the middle more than she already is.
I am actually sitting here on the couch playing games on pogo.com. He kept calling and the more he called the better I felt. He hasn't tried since 5:30 but that's ok. It feels good to not answer for once. I sat and played games with the kids while he was calling. I don't care if he gets angry. I told him that it wasn't going to be on his schedule anymore and I guess I am putting that in action.
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
I am glad you are not angry with me. He is giving up everything. I spoke to him about a week ago and told him that he needs to be spending more time with the kids because they miss him. That he is going to loose everything if he did not straighten up his act. He did not like the conv.
Either way CB is going to have to deal with the same sh!T that your H is. Unfortunately I did not want it to come to this but I really have no choice now after my summons.
Either way please start living your life for you and the kids. Look out for you and your best interest. You need to detatch and just let him go and have faith in god that he will lead you in the right direction.
I am sorry for what you are going through, I do not like it and wish there was something that I could do to change it but there isn't.
I have the kids next week. Would you want to take Q and Dominic to see a movie? I am planning on taking the kids so it is up to you. I know how much Q likes bubba and it would be kinda cool to take them to a movie. Just a thought to get you mind off of your sitch...
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
