Friday evening, my wife is picking up our daughter from the sitters, I have made plans with friends. I am sitting at home, relaxing after a very long week when the phone rings...you guessed it, its my wife...she is in tears, I can barely understand her, she is in the car, my daughter is also crying in the background.
My wife had an argument with the babysitter! I go over to my wife's, try to calm her down...try to see what happened (I called the sitter beforehand to get her side of the story). The reasons for the fight are, in my mind, trivial. My wife insists (and she told this to the sitter) that our daughter will not go back there. The sitter has never endangered our daughter, she loves her and treats her well and my daughter loves her sitter!!! All this started because my daughter was wearing a diaper, when she is potty trained (most of the time) and my wife started "attacking" the sitter.
So now we have to find a new sitter. For the time being, my wife is bringing our daughter to my place and I bring her to the sitters (they both refuse to see each other, speak to each other... ). My wife says she hates this, that she has to go through me !!! But she created this mess. Plus, we are now breaking a two year relationship between our daughter and her caregiver...a beautiful and loving relationship, because of my wife's innability to treat people with respect! It was her comments and attitude that turned off the sitter. And I am stuck in the middle, and so is my daughter.
I stayed away from my wife this weekend...and dont much feel like being around her at all.
On Sunday, (d still with wife remember) I had a baptism to attend (I am Godfather to my little nephew ) and my daughter was supposed to come with me. My wife left two messages on Sunday, saying our daughter was sick and wouldn't go. When I called, later in the evening, my wife AND sick daughter were at my brother-in-laws B-day party ??? The baptism had been planned months ago (before the B-day party), my wife knew about it, had accpeted to come with our daughter, or let my daughter come with me if she did not feel like coming...and she turns around and brings her somewhere else instead! YES, my daughter was sick (still is) but then, how is it that she could not come to the PLANNED baptism, but COULD go to the B-day party??? My wife asked me if I was hurt...NO SH*T, what do you think!
I cant deal with all of this! I dont want to deal with this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Steph (who is in a pretty good place, when his estranged wife doesn't come in and screw everything up!)
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) and my daughter was supposed to come with me. My wife left two messages on Sunday, saying our daughter was sick and wouldn't go. When I called, later in the evening, my wife AND sick daughter were at my brother-in-laws B-day party ??? The baptism had been planned months ago (before the B-day party), my wife knew about it, had accpeted to come with our daughter, or let my daughter come with me if she did not feel like coming...and she turns around and brings her somewhere else instead! YES, my daughter was sick (still is) but then, how is it that she could not come to the PLANNED baptism, but COULD go to the B-day party??? My wife asked me if I was hurt...NO SH*T, what do you think!
