AMD, Christy, and Amy - thanks for your good wishes. We had a lot of fun. It wasn't always easy being alone w/ two kids, but the weather was really nice and the hotel was great. We were able to walk to all the sites, and we had a good time.

COG -I'm sorry you feel that way. ;\) I think my email was totally appropriate. Yes, I was mad, but I wasn't going to apologize for not rushing back to be here. I think that he did make plans--any opportunity to go out drinking--but he really should have told me. You might think it's petty, he might think so...I don't care. I'm tired of being the one who, for years, has been walked all over. He needs clear boundaries, and if it causes a rift, well, at this point, I really don't give a darn. As for ow, I don't know. But I do know that he didn't want me to pick up the DVD player even before this whole incident.

That said, this was his reply:

Hi Nicola,

No problem, I can pick them up at 5 on Sunday. No problem for the Thursdays, I am good to 9:30. I just made a quick call based on your 8pm arrival estimate at the last minute to leave at 9/9:15. [So you called me at 8:30 because..?]

Sorry about the video [he forgot to drop it off, as I expected, which is why I wanted to pick it up], but it is useless in the car for both, as they have a hard time both watching it at the same time and fights break out. It is really good for when S5 wants to watch scooby doo and D10 and I want to watch something else at home.

Have fun!

H


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think he's probably hanging on by a thread, and really does'nt want to loose you. You were out at an alumni function, single men present, and he's at home with the kid's. My gut tells me he had nothing going on, but just could'nt stand the thought of you conversing and having a good time out in public, so that's why he called you to come home.

That's a nice thought, but I seriously doubt it. He has given me no indication whatsover that he doesn't want to lose me. If anything, it may be a case of ownership, but not because he loves me as a wife.

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I can understand your moving on.

I'm not looking for another R right now, but it is nice to know that the possibilities are out there. There are nice, normal, interesting men who are emotionally healthy--or at least seem to be!

i"m actually not feeling too sad or negative, but I do feel that the reality is that H doesn't want to be with me and has not changed to the point that I want to be with him. I also don't know if he will ever change. He just told me a couple of weeks ago that he's still seeing the T, but really just to "bounce ideas off him," as he supposedly knows exactly what he's doing. Well, good luck to him!

Thanks for stopping by!

Nicola

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