Hello Piecing people! This seems like the hall of heros to all of us over on the Separated BBs We all hope to be here someday and admire you ALL for accomplishing your goals. I came over here to check it out a few times and even commented on a few posts. When this all started for me, I vowed to only come over to Piecing once I had moved back home. Now I see that is not practical as that will be the most critical time to ask for help.
A link to my sitch is in my signature. Basically H and I separated to give one another space (his choice but I was feeling it too). After being separated for a month H confesses to having PTSD from when he was in the service a few years back (Afghanistan). That is just one aspect, I was also a very controlling and needy wife! I guess I cannot blame Osama for EVERYTHING We are in communication often and see one another once a week, sometimes more. H initiates almost all of the contact and makes the plans to see one another.
My point of this posting is I do not feel perfectly matched with either the Separated or the Piecing BB. In the Separated posts I get real positive and helpful feedback but I also get feedback from only a few and I feel it is because my sitch is really going well. I feel foreign here because I have LIVED on the Separated BB and I am currently separated. H has made no indication that he wants me home anytime soon and I feel like we have plateaued in our progress.
Progress made and, thus far, sustained:
H still TMs, calls, or emails everyday. H still makes plans with me at least once a week (he's very busy w/ 2 jobs). H is wearing his ring again (at least around me). H calls when he has a "bad night" (PTSD).
Other progress worth a mention:
I am busier than ever during the week, weekends are still bad... H recently told me he loved me when I asked him why he was bring so kind. I have started losing weight from hitting the gym regularly. H commented to our having "been in a rut", making my world open back up. I am looking into getting a part time job or volunteering to make my weekends better. H insists we keep our separation from his family. I make an effort to show H my appreciation for the things he does (still does a lot for me by HIS choice).
SO...my question is, after reading my sitch and my progress, do I have to wait for a solid reconciliation confirmation from H to be here or can I chat here for a bit? I hate to think I jumped the gun here and perhaps I should wait out the plateau to see what happens. Like I said before, I feel like I am irritating the Separated people and I feel a little ahead of myself on the Piecing BB
We all hope to be here someday and admire you ALL for accomplishing your goals. I came over here to check it out a few times and even commented on a few posts. When this all started for me, I vowed to only come over to Piecing once I had moved back home. Now I see that is not practical as that will be the most critical time to ask for help.
We are in communication often and see one another once a week, sometimes more. H initiates almost all of the contact and makes the plans to see one another. 
