During our conversation, I openned up for real, for the first time, about my trials and tribulations with our daughter. She asks, every single day since March 1st, about Mom: "where's my mom? I want Mom. We're going swimming! With Mom?!" Many times not done in an emotional way, but it wears me down...I can not give my daughter what she craves. I can not help her, I try to console, love, treat with compassion...and it works, to a degree. But I feel like I am not responsible but I am the one left to "deal with it" as my wife has told me several times. She was surprised...had no clue. So I told her about a friend of ours (I have kept in contact...my wife has not). Her parents have been divorced for 13 years...she is now 31, and she says the pain still lingers. She is a happy, well balanced person, but deep down inside, a part of her still wishes for an impossible reconciliation (being an adult, she realizes this will not happen!). My wife then told me about a friend of her's. Divorced 4 years and her children STILL ask about Dad, want to be with him, miss him. So all of a sudden, my wife becomes VERY worried. Is this what is happening to our daughter? YES.
Now she wants to do something about it, but has NO CLUE where to begin...and naturally, I hesitate in saying that it would start with her openning up to a possible reconciliation . I'm pretty sure she knows how I think!
We are supposed to get together to talk more about it. But we have both realized that our C was NOT helping. The C helps ME agreat deal...but as far as couple therapy is concerned...well...that's another story. Problem is, the C is payed for by my health plan, but I only have access to the Cs on a list...so our choices are limited.
Where do I go from here? NO clue...lets see where my wife is going first.
. I'm pretty sure she knows how I think! 
