My husband and i were having sex for the first 3 months after seperation, he also said that he didnt know why he wanted to. I think that deep down it is because they still have feelings for us. However, in my situation it did not help me, i started to feel used because they was still no signs of him finishing it with OW. I also started to feel that i needed my husband to respect me more if we were going to have a relationship in the future. My husband now gives me hugs and kisses on the lips when he leaves after dropping D2 off, where as before there was no hugs and kisses just sex.
there are lots of people on this board who sit on either side of the fence when it comes to having sex with your WAS. I think it comes down to whether you are able to have sex with him and have zero expectations after, I could'nt. I always thought that it was making him want to come home, where in reality he was having his cake and eating it. In the end i told my husband that i had more respect for myself than that. For a while he distanced himself, but like i said recently he has started giving hugs and kisses on the lips.
Even now my husband gets jealous and is always asking me if i have met anyone. I dont know why they do this, after all they are the ones that left, supposedly to be with the love of thier life (yuck).
Only you know what is best for you in your stich. All i would say is proceed with caution, do not let your husband have his cake and eat it. I personally think that there are other ways to show your husband that you love him.
Nicky
Me 34 H 33 D3 together 10 years married 2 years Bomb 22/8/06 (I feel empty) OW involved
