steph, it certainly does sound like your wife is on a journey of some kind, don't fear it. take your own journey...discover what other goals you may have that go along with family house loving partner.
I will share with you the fact that dispite my h's having his ow "friend" he saw himself as being alone, living alone, just doing his own thing, all the while I sat picturing my future growing old and sitting on the porch drinking lemonade...
I had to let h take his journey (was never thrilled about it) and I HAD to take my own as well... my journey helped me to see that though family, home, and loving partner are all very nice and important to me... I am also important to me.. h learned through his journey that though independance, personal time (and all that stuff) is nice family, home and loving partner are also important.
so steph what I say to you is this...it seems to me that your w does love you...needs to take this journey...become the independant woman...you need to take your own journey too. then and only then can you come back together one independant strong woman and one independant strong man choosing to share their life together.
