It sounds like your wife has some independence issues that she needs to work through.
Unfortunately, when it comes to my personal experience, I became a fanatic and then settled down and realized that I could be a strong independent woman of the 90's and yet still have the white picket fence and family.
You may be better off backing off while she goes through this exploration of herself as an independent strong woman.
I still think from what you've written, that she loves you. She may be having issues in feeling that she loves you and that's not 'right' and doesn't fit in with the strong/independent modern amazon that she's trying to be.
Please remember, Michele says 'Love is a choice'. Unfortunately, you can't make that choice for your wife.
However, I do want to point out to you that the other day, you expressed your feelings and your wife changed her actions. I still think this means that she cares for you. If she truly didn't care any longer, her response would have been, "So?".
Perhaps my best advice would be to re-read Divorce Remedy. Or perhaps the "Fire your Shrink" book. I haven't read this one yet, but I have it on hold at the library. I'm hoping this one will help me focus on myself more and my marriage less.
If nothing else I've said helps, please take this gentle hug. (((((Steph)))))
