Quoting Jamesjohn: Could doing this be a "more of what works" for you?!
Yes , yes it could!
Quote: Who knows? She may follow your lead on this, and do it herself!
Actually, lets give credit where credit is due! I was following HER lead . Last Sunday night, we had a great big "touchy" discussion when she asked me to participate in her family's Xmas gift exchange (that's when i questioned her motives). She called later that night to thank me for being able to overcome my initial worries!