Say what? He enlists in the middle of a war that has people doing three and four tours of duty in Iraq, but he thought he was special and wouldn't have to go???? What a GIGANTIC wanker!!!
I agree, he should have joined the Peace Corps instead. Any job in the military is a job to go to war. I did. I was on an aircraft carrier and got deployed a lot - in combat zones. I went to the Persian Gulf in the middle of 120 degree summer weather. Every member of the military needs to do their part, even "Mr. I-want-to-get-out".
I wouldn't worry about this guy if he's afraid to fulfill his commitment to his country. What does that say about his commitment to a relationship?
Just keep being the H you need to be.
~Sol
~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Single Dad, and luvin it! ~ Happiness is a state of mind ~
Oh, he doesn't have a commitment to his country. That's not at all why he joined the army. It was because he was broke and also because he knew that he wasn't a real man and thought the army could make him one. So the real objective was ultimately to get my W to marry him. Even W has said that OM "needs" to stay in the army for years. And, yes sol, W knows that OM has no real commitment to a R -- that's he really incapable of one.
The LORD is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth." (Psalm 145:18)
It's a good sign that your W can see right through him. The thing to work on is for her to cut off all connection with him, and to focus on her M to you.
~Sol
~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Single Dad, and luvin it! ~ Happiness is a state of mind ~
Quote: The thing to work on is for her to cut off all connection with him, and to focus on her M to you.
Yes, but pushing for that got me nowhere. Pressuring my W only caused her to push away. Pressuring her doesn't work. What is working is unconditional love while making my desires known. Every day, her love for me grows, and I'm just trusting God to continue that.
The LORD is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth." (Psalm 145:18)
W had an eviction notice on her door Tuesday. She had to be out by today to avoid paying an additional month's rent. Since she is broke (just went back to work this week), she moved everything out. It's a great feeling to know that the fantasy of her living there with OM is over.
She's moved in most of her furniture (and some of OM's [minus the bed, of course], which isn't a big deal to me), and the apartment looks great. It clearly feels much more like home to her, and she's now much more comfortable at my/our apartment. She hasn't "officially" decided to move in with me though, as she anticipates spending some time at her parents' house, though her father hinted yesterday that she wasn't welcome.
Good things.
The LORD is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth." (Psalm 145:18)
Hi RB, You are doing so well. So calm and confident and stable. It is wonderful to see what has happened here. Thank you for being who you are. I am so happy for your family, that you are slowly coming back together and healing.
PositivelyListening ************************************** When one door of happiness closes, another one opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us. - Helen Keller
So much for being calm and stable. I blew up last night (for the first time in 6 weeks) when W wanted to bring OM's bed into her parents' house for D4 to sleep on ... and my FIL didn't have a problem with it. I was mainly upset with him, and not with W (who of course is oblivious to these things).
The LORD is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth." (Psalm 145:18)
