Believe it or not, some of the discussion you had is a good thing. You both were able to release a lot of pent up emotion. That is good, it needs to come out. The struggle is what to do next. If you focus on the negative things that were said, you doomed. If you can focus on what was said and look for a viable solution, something you both can agree on, you will be much more gratified. Also, what did he say about you? Look at those statements to see where his frustration with the M is. He is actually telling you exactly what you need to do. The trick is to be able to look at it as constructive criticsim. Identify the issue, then work on a solution.
Here is a site to look at http://www.uptoparents.org it deals with divorceing parents. It covers a ton of issues related to kids. Believe me, it will take LESS effort to restore your marriage, than it will to raise your children in 2 different homes.
Remember, if you feel yourself getting upset, excuse yourself from the convo. Take a few minutes to regroup. NONE of this needs to be decided today!
