Based on everything I've read and my husband's behavior, it did seem like he was in MLC. He was confused, didn't know what he wanted. He bought himself new clothes and basically turned into someone I don't know.
The thing is that he has this idea that I should be perfectly OK with this situation. Meaning, I should be fine with us being separated, with him picking up the kids, etc... He doesn't think I should be upset, angry, whatever. He has always been pleasant and after the first few months, has always answered my phone calls and been friendly when he picks up the kids. He has even stayed a few times for breakfast.
I don't think he's trying to reconnect. I think he just wants to be sure I'm not mad and I'm OK with the situation.
I am mad and I'm finally let him know I am. I was trying to DB and be happy when he came over, but somehow, I think that had the opposite affect on him. As long as I was happy, he was fine. He knew I was leaving the door open or something.
Maybe he's not a typical MLCer. I think I need to stay distanced. I don't know what else to do. I don't even know how to act when he's over or calls so I'm just trying to avoid him.
I don't know how to open the door just a little bit.
