i'm going to follow your thread from now on, because your wife reminds me of my husband. He says he knows he wants a divorce but this weekend alone he came over early to watch the kids so I could go back to bed both mornings, raked my leaves, had dinner with us, went with me to take the kids to brunch with Santa and did my grocery shopping. I see him more now than I did before he moved out. If these people suffer so much guilt then how did they get the guts to leave in the first place? Good Luck!